Is your loved one coping with a disabling condition? Are you the primary caregiver, spending each day caring for him or her? We know, as Florida elder law attorneys, just how challenging it can be to ensure that, on a daily basis, your loved one is protected. When you add to these lifetime caregiving needs with thoughts about a future that may not include you, we understand if you have a fear of the unknown and concern about making the right decisions for your disabled loved one.
First, let us begin by putting your mind at ease. Every person’s situation is unique, and we do not know personally what you are going through, but we do understand the Florida law surrounding how you may protect yourself and your family. There are planning opportunities to ensure that your loved one with a disabling condition will be as supported as they can be.
One of the most challenging aspects of witnessing a loved one struggle with a disabling condition may be the sadness and confusion an individual experiences, often exhibited in different ways. This could be through angry outbursts and belligerence or through silence and naivety. Remember these actions may be symptoms of the illness. Be aware, there may be nothing you can do to change the behavior, nor should you expect the behavior to change. Let us share three tips that can help you plan for yourself, your loved one, and keep him or her safe.
1. Do not leave things to chance, or memory and keep things simple!!! You have so many things going on. Keep a detailed record of what you do, and do not do, for your loved one. Include everything from prescriptions to allergies to doctors to care needs. In addition, get the support you need and make sure others have access to this information, as well. Also, be supportive of your loved one by breaking things down into the simplest of tasks
2. Help your loved one establish a routine. As mentioned above, in addition to keeping things simple, a routine may also help your loved one feel safe. For example: having a morning routine, regular meal times and a daily walk could be a way to provide structure to your loved one. By creating a written schedule that can hang on the wall or setting timers, everyone can know the routine. With the goal of retaining the dignity of your loved one, Be sure to discuss with your loved one these supportive devices and suggestions so they do not seem paternalistic or demeaning.
3. Get the legal planning you need to accomplish your goals and those for your loved one. You will need an experienced Florida attorney on your side because the law helping those with a disabling condition is complicated. With the guidance of a Florida elder law attorney you can create an estate plan for both your lifetime and for the future of your disabled loved one. In addition, your Florida elder law attorney will also know what actions could potentially remove your loved one from any access to both state and federal benefits.
Caring for another person may be a chaotic, but rewarding, experience. It may never go perfectly, so be sure to treat yourself with the same kindness that you would treat your loved one. The fact that you are present and caring for your loved one can be the greatest source of support and comfort you can provide.
If you know a loved one with a disabling condition, be sure this person is legally taken care of. Do not wait to contact our office today to schedule an appointment.